faerunner:
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“seras romance is abusive” okkkk bbbbuuuutttttt hhhhaaaavvvveeee u met anderssssss… why is he forgiven when she isnt…….
Her romance is emotionally abusive if you’re an elf, since she constantly makes bitter and spiteful comments about your heritage, culture, and religion to or in front of you but expects you to just take it; and uses emotional manipulation and blackmail to try to force you to hide or deny your culture / heritage / religion or break up.
Anders? … He remains one of the most hated characters in the franchise. O.o Even if he wasn’t, his actions don’t excuse Sera’s.
god I don’t even want to get into this again but it is fuckin wild that this post I made when the game came out like… two years ago is getting reblogged now.
for the record, i read seras actions as being that of an emotionally immature person who is dealing with someone she really likes but can’t deal with certain aspects of their lifestyle because of her own personal issues. it’s better for them to break up in the long run, though she handled it all incredibly poorly. it’s shitty, but this post was less about excusing her behavior and more written in response to how the word abusive was still being used as a catch all word for “behavior i don’t like.” im not sure if it’s still happening because i don’t participate in the fandom, but it is still an attitude i disagree with.
as for the anders thing, i, once again, don’t follow the fandom anymore, but it was more a commentary on how he can treat both hawke and the companions in a super shitty way but (at least at the time and environment I wrote this post in) was still a fandom fave. i would probably not classify his behavior as abusive, for the same reasons i would not classify sera’s. his actions were shitty but not abusive.
im only clarifying this because ive seen this post reblogged a couple times recently and it feels weird to see kind of an angry reaction post of mine go around without any clarification on both my current position and why i made the post, which had more to do with a fandom attitude that was emerging at the time than any actual statement on either of the characters, despite how poorly I framed it. im not like…. mad at you for commenting or anything haha. that’s the nature of this website.
but anyway, characters can be shitty and complicated without overusing the word abuse to decry their behavior and i think that’s true for both sera and anders.
(via dctorsong)